Writings by Dr. Akilah El and Marilyn Gordon
Many of us hold on to negativity because we believe that the other person that caused us pain, anger, hatred, guilt, sadness, fear, and resentment is affected by our experience. When people hurt us we want to hurt them back. We want them to experience our pain, so we hold on to the negative experience. Holding on to these negative experiences is the KEY reason why we are bonded to the situation we want to escape.
When we encounter a similar situation the subconscious mind shifts the memory that is stored from past experience and brings it to the conscious mind. We recreate the initial situation and react not to the present, but to the experience we had 2, 10, 20 even 30 years ago. Holding on to negative experience causes us to over burden our spirits. We begin to invest in hate and not in healing.
Unfortunately, when we hold onto these negative emotions, we are denying our inner power to grow. We are suffocating our spirits. The only way to free our spirit and allow it to grow and keep growing is to Forgive.
We all are held accountable for what we say, do and even think. When we send negative thoughts, say negative words, or do negative things we believe that we are hurting the other party but we are really hurting ourselves. When we send out negative energy, we recreate the negative experience all over again. This is why many of us say; “Why does this always happen to me?” It happens to you because you were not taught how to LET GO! We can only let go by forgiving others.
Forgiveness is a major step towards spiritual growth and development. Forgiveness comes from the heart and not the mouth. When we forgive, we understand who we are and what our purpose on this earth is suppose to be. Forgiveness brings peace and harmony into our lives. It allows us to be free of any and all negative experiences. When we are free we are open to the experience of love, joy, happiness, success and peace. When we forgive, we learn. When we learn, we grow mentally, physically, and spiritually.
If you are not receiving good things in your life, you need to forgive. If you are not giving freely and feeling good about it, you need to forgive. If there is someone in your life that you have negative emotion towards or bad memories of, you need to forgive them. If you are feeling lonely, confused, desperate, frustrated, and depressed, you need to forgive. Forgiveness is like a spiritual cleanse, which purges the mind, heart and spirit.
But, you may ask, what about evil? Can we bless the horrors of terrorism or war, of the great acts of perpetration by governments and individuals? In Star Wars, Obi Wan Kenobi says to Darth Vader, “You can slay me, but even then I will be more powerful than you.” Can you bless Darth Vader for helping to make the forces of the light saber more powerful? Can you have compassion for a man like Darth Vader (or any other so-called evil force) who is only a shell of a being, doing what he came here to do – and ultimately making his adversary more powerful? An enemy can make you stronger, teach you something about yourself. Can we bless this force?
One more book called The Book of Mirdad, speaks of great acts of horror and terror as the tearing away of the veils that separate us from our understanding and experience of the divine. This book, written by Mikhail in Lebanon in 1948, said this:
Man tears his flesh in shreds and spills his blood in streams. While God, the Father-Mother, lovingly looks on. For He knows well that Man is tearing but the heavy veils and spilling but the bitter gall that blind him to his oneness with the One.
So here there is opportunity for blessing as well, where it least seems to be. All of our trials are calculated to enlighten us, though we may come though them kicking and screaming with the pain we feel. It’s all meant to take off our blinders and strip us of our mistaken notions about what is real and what is not, what is good and what its evil, what is death and what is infinite.
We keep on doing our best to uplift our lives and the lives of others. Blessing everything can help us to do this. The tricky part is remembering. It is only too easy to remember what hurt us. It is perhaps more challenging to extend a blessing from the heart; yet it carries with it a great abundance of blessings for ourselves.